Money doesn’t always bring happiness. People with ten million dollars are no happier than people with nine million dollars. — Hobart Brown (1831-1888)

So you want to be a Domme?

January 17th, 2012 by Elisabeth

Found this reading list on one of the sites that I frequent. It’s probably not the final word on learning about being dominate but it’s a damn good start. For me, I read books and also hired a lifestyle Domme to teach me the philosophy of what it means to be dominate and well, there is so much more to being a dominate woman then holding a flogger over a guy and telling him, “Bad boy!”.I won’t go into detail about my sexual top/bottom preferences. I’ll save it for later but I do hope that you appreciate this list of reading material! (Side note: Some of the websites listed below are geared towards dealing with female submissives and not male. That’s fine. I’ll start to create a list of more sites dealing with male submissive and list them here in due time! Emotionally, though, there are similarities with techniques and mindsets.)Lifestyle Reference BooksFemale Domination by Elise SuttonThe Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women by Claudia VarrinThe Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance by Mistress LoreleiThe Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady GreenAt Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship by TammyKo EckartSM101 by Jay WisemanThe New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet HardyThe Compleat Spanker by Lady GreenDifferent Loving by Gloria BrameBondage Reference BooksThe Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage by Jay WisemanErotic Bondage Handbook by Jay WisemanThe Toybag Guide to Foot and Show Worship by MidoriThe Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by MidoriBondage for Sex by Chanta RoseTwo Knotty Boys Showing you the RopesGood Overall ReferencesThe Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies by Jay WisemanWhere to Hang out on the InterwebzFetlife.comInteresting – Human furniture, outrageous bondages and outfits. Strictly female – Video site with many forms of kink (M/M, F/F, M/F, F/M, TS, Toys)Armbinders.Blogspot.Com – Images of women in armbinders (it’s very hard for a man to wear one due a man’s broad shoulders) – Images/stories/commentary about spanking (M/F, F/F). Many good – Images/stories/commentary about bondage (M/F, F/F). Many good links.*** A final note. I sincerely believe that the best way to be a good dominate is to understand and try out being submissive, first. There are plenty of “Masters” out there that started out being a submissive. This might not make a lot of sense to people just reading this that don’t have this type of experience but I have found it to be very true.