Found this reading list on one of the sites that I frequent. It’s probably not the final word on learning about being dominate but it’s a damn good start. For me, I read books and also hired a lifestyle Domme to teach me the philosophy of what it means to be dominate and well, there is so much more to being a dominate woman then holding a flogger over a guy and telling him, “Bad boy!”.
I won’t go into detail about my sexual top/bottom preferences. I’ll save it for later but I do hope that you appreciate this list of reading material! (Side note: Some of the websites listed below are geared towards dealing with female submissives and not male. That’s fine. I’ll start to create a list of more sites dealing with male submissive and list them here in due time! Emotionally, though, there are similarities with techniques and mindsets.)
Lifestyle Reference Books
Female Domination by Elise Sutton
The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women by Claudia Varrin
The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance by Mistress Lorelei
The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners by Lady Green
At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship by TammyKo Eckart
SM101 by Jay Wiseman
The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy
The Compleat Spanker by Lady Green
Different Loving by Gloria Brame
Bondage Reference Books
The Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage by Jay Wiseman
Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman
The Toybag Guide to Foot and Show Worship by Midori
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori
Bondage for Sex by Chanta Rose
Two Knotty Boys Showing you the Ropes
Good Overall References
The Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies by Jay Wiseman
Where to Hang out on the Interwebz
Houseofgord.com – Human furniture, outrageous bondages and outfits. Strictly female submissive
Kink.com – Video site with many forms of kink (M/M, F/F, M/F, F/M, TS, Toys)
Armbinders.Blogspot.Com – Images of women in armbinders (it’s very hard for a man to wear one due a man’s broad shoulders)
Spankingblog.com – Images/stories/commentary about spanking (M/F, F/F). Many good links.
Bondageblog.com – Images/stories/commentary about bondage (M/F, F/F). Many good links.
*** A final note. I sincerely believe that the best way to be a good dominate is to understand and try out being submissive, first. There are plenty of “Masters” out there that started out being a submissive. This might not make a lot of sense to people just reading this that don’t have this type of experience but I have found it to be very true.