The Thrill of Cuddling and Sleeping Together …
I miss it. Sometimes. The cuddling that happens after an interlude and sleeping overnight with a man. I miss it a lot.
As mentioned before, I don’t date and well, it might be nice to but right now doesn’t seem to be the right time. 
But that doesn’t negate the craving that I often have for the closeness that is shared between a man and a woman. The closeness that I’m suggesting is that which occurs afterwards. Or before. Or does it happen much if ever?
Men are so different in that after an orgasm, they wish to jump up and go in a different direction. Completely fine.
But when I’ve had an intense encounter with someone, I wish to feel their arms wrap around me and not let go for awhile. And often, there is just a craving to spend the night with someone. I often envy those women who are always getting those overnight dates. Those just don’t happen but rarely, very rarely, with me.
I miss spooning. Especially if a man gives up a lot of body heat. You know who you are! Smile. The thrill of that exceeds even just cuddling at times because it does create the illusion of feeling safe. It’s a primal feeling for me when it happens. There have been times while laying in bed about to fall asleep where I imagine a man lying next to me and holding me. Powerful images.
So if any of you out there reading this that enjoys cuddling, then by all means, feel free to cuddle me! In the process, you can also be sweet, tease, kiss my ears and tell me I’m luscious and wonderful. Then … I’ll be thinking those sweet things about you!
P.S. I’m sounding positively feminine this morning, aren’t I?
December 12th, 2011 at 1:45 pm
There are few things sexier than a woman being a woman. I wonder what the proper gift would be for a night of “cuddling with a side of whispered sweet nothings” ?
December 27th, 2011 at 1:47 am
A very interesting post Elizabeth. The interesting result is the physical and emotional process to achieve orgasms in men and women.
A Stanford study in 1994 found similar levels of increased oxytocin in males and females during orgasm. Oxytocin is the hormone that induces feelings of affiliation and love. The difference seems to be that in men this hormone subsides drastically after orgasm while in women the hormone seems to continue to be produced.
I do not know about other men except their talk, which I find bizarre. For me, I always will hold off until the woman is pleased before allowing myself to get pleasure. Also when I do reach the crescendo of the orgasm I find that cuddling in the aftermath of orgasm is the most enjoyable. I also believe that it is important for the woman to feel secure and comfortable in the love and affiliation as mentioned in the Stanford study.
The comedian, Jeff Foxworthy had an interesting take on the male and female love making process. He stated, “women are like diesel engines, it takes them a while to get warmed up, but when the do, they can run a long time. Men are more like bottle rockets, once they go off, ooh, ahh, snore.”
Thanks Elizabeth for the post.
Bill
December 30th, 2011 at 12:43 pm
R.E.S. – Just call me and we’ll discuss the endless possibilities!
Bill – You’re welcome. I do sincerely believe that men aren’t a boorish as they sometimes come off as being. I know that men like to be cuddled and teased.
But it’s VERY typical for a man to be so completely engaged with me, and it’s so intense and then … when there is an orgasm, wow. Complete personality change. Up and bye bye! It’s also different within these confines of pay for play and I’m aware of that.
Damn but I so often miss that intimacy.
A good friend of mine told me to NEVER find your sexual or sensual pleasures within these confined boundaries and walls of ours. I rarely listen all that well.
Best,
Elisabeth